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Dad’s Disapproval Leads To Communication Gap

DEAR ABBY: We are from the Middle East. My younger brother married an American woman and moved to Arizona, where her family lives. Because our dad didn’t approve, my brother made the plans behind our back and told Dad in an email. He also didn’t mention that they were moving until a week ...

Allergen Test Result Gives Reader Pause

DEAR DR. ROACH: I am 62 and in excellent health. I had a blood test for allergens, including honeybees and wasps. My results ranged from moderate to high levels. However, the test for serum proteins, IgE levels, concerns me even more: The reference range is less than 430 ug/L, and my result ...

Serial Father Stays Friendly With Exes

DEAR ABBY: I recently met a 28-year-old father of three I’m interested in. He seems wonderful. He’s a hard worker, takes care of his responsibilities and is an amazing father to his children. They’re all still very little, but they’re great kids. The only thing that’s been on my ...

Divorce Ruins Relationships

Dear Annie: I divorced over a year ago after a 35-year marriage that was very dysfunctional — although my adult children and ex-husband did not see it that way. Initially, I did not handle the divorce with any tact or finesse, I’ll admit. I am sorry for that and have apologized, but my kids ...

She Should Be Told He Is a Rapist

DEAR ABBY: My brother is in a long-term relationship. Throughout my teenage years, he raped me every chance he got. The emotional and physical abuse has left my life broken. Should I tell his girlfriend about it? I did confront him about it, but he just denied it. Wouldn’t she want to know? ...

Hike With Purpose: Interval Training

As the seasons change, so do our exercise needs. As we consider our health and fitness needs over the summer, the heat and humidity may become factors, so move with purpose. One of the best ways to appreciate our changing seasons is going for a hike. Hiking can be done almost anywhere by ...

Man Regrets New Living Arrangement

Dear Annie: A year after my wife of 21 years and I divorced, I reconnected with a woman I had met some 30 years before. I was happy to hear from her; I wanted to marry her before I married my ex-wife. We started seeing each other. After a year, we started talking about living together and ...

Roses Vary In Many Ways

Seeing gardens awash in rose blossoms this time of year is undoubtedly what prompted my sister-in-law to call me for suggestions on what roses to plant. We’ll see if she can sustain her enthusiasm until early fall or spring, either of which would be better times for planting. Not that you ...

Make Open Marriage A Closed Topic

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in an extramarital relationship for 10 years. My husband knows, and so do my close friends. I love this man dearly, but neither of us want it to be full-time. I have children at home and don’t want to disrupt anything. We meet once or twice a week. He touches base ...

Fetish Drives Man To Badger Wife Into Smoking Again

DEAR ABBY: I am a 28-year-old female. I recently married the most amazing man in the whole world, “Jeremy.” We connect, communicate, understand and love everything about each other. My only issue is, Jeremy has an obsession/fetish with women smoking cigarettes. He fantasizes about me ...

Couple Questions Whether to Move In Together

Dear Annie: All the advice columns I’ve read recommend not moving in together before marriage — or at least not before you and your partner have been dating for a year. I get the logic behind that, but in real life, things rarely follow a perfect timeline. In my case, my boyfriend of six ...

Vitamin C In High Doses Won’t Prevent Dementia

DEAR DR. ROACH: Is there any evidence that high doses of vitamin C have decreased or prevented the risk of Alzheimer’s disease? I ask this question because none of the people I know who have developed Alzheimer’s have been taking high doses of vitamin C daily (4,000 to 6,000 milligrams). ...

Husband’s Retirement Looms Large

Dear Annie: Can you give me some advice about how to adjust to my husband’s imminent early-ish retirement? He is a nice guy, but he has no life. He has no friends or interests outside the home. He is introverted and sedentary and has obsessive-compulsive disorder, and frankly, I am dreading ...

Condition Causes Him To Get Lost

DEAR DR. ROACH: We believe a young family member has symptoms of prosopagnosia, possibly with a genetic basis, as an older relative has had the same problem all of her life. He has no sense of direction, and gets lost frequently while driving on what should be familiar roads, even using GPS. He ...

Antidepressants Eliminated His Sex Drive

Dear Annie: My husband takes antidepressants. He suffers from severe anxiety and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. If he doesn’t take his pills, he’s tough to be around. He becomes depressed. His attitude toward everything is negative. He stays in bed. He sleeps all day. It’s an ...

Teen Gives Mom Marching Orders For Band Shows

DEAR ABBY: My 15-year-old son will be entering 10th grade. He has been a member of the school band since sixth grade. After performing in last year’s Christmas parade, a group of the students went to a nursing home to perform for the residents. When we arrived, I started to get out of the ...

High School Launches Plan to Help Freshmen Succeed

The term “freshman” came about in the 1550s to refer to a person who was a novice, an inexperienced person. Why then, after they have already completed nine years of schooling (more if they attended preschool), do we wait until the first year of high school to assign them the term of ...

Interview With A Farm-to-Table Buff

Dan Barber is the award-winning chef of Blue Hill, a restaurant in Manhattan’s West Village, and Blue Hill at Stone Barns, located within the nonprofit farm and education center Stone Barns Center for Food & Agriculture in upstate New York. Chef Barber, the author of “The Third Plate” ...

Stepparenting Woes, Advice

Dear Annie: This is my 36th year as a stepmother, and I am writing in hopes of helping others who are taking the huge step of blending families. My husband, “Nelson,” had custody of his two children, a boy and girl, who were in their early teens when we started dating. Nelson’s ex lived ...

Sweethearts Struggling With Age Gap

DEAR ABBY: I’m in my late 20s and have a male companion who is 30-plus years older than I am. We were together for a while, then stopped so we could both try to find someone closer to our ages. Neither of us did, and we recently started seeing each other again. Although we are good for ...