Columns

Wife Wonders Why She Stayed Married to Him

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 30 years. Although my husband and I are both positive people, we have not had a happy marriage. He leads the life of a bachelor, including sex with other women and unilateral decision-making. He’s outgoing, generous and well-liked. I’m a homebody who ...

Half a Lifetime Shaped by Your Stories

It doesn’t seem possible that it’s been nearly 23 years — half my life — since I started as a reporter at The Times Leader. After a couple years there and a brief stint in Pittsburgh, I joined the Wheeling News-Register staff as the Family section writer on Nov. 1, 1999. Sifting ...

Appalachian Art Project Recognizes Harshman

Wheeling artist Cheryl Ryan Harshman is participating in the Women of Appalachia Project for 2018-19. She is one of 33 women chosen for the project’s fine art component. The participants live in West Virginia, Ohio, Kentucky and Pennsylvania. A fine art exhibit organized by the Women of ...

Parents Who Would Do It All Over Again

Dear Readers: Several weeks ago, someone requested that I pose a question to my readers that Ann Landers asked in 1975: “If you had to do it all over again, would you have kids?” I received an overwhelming response to this unscientific poll. The largest group of respondents (77 percent) ...

Let the Children Play at School

“Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children, play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood.” — Fred Rogers I recently had the privilege of representing Ohio County Schools at the West Virginia Teacher of the Year gala in ...

Couple Disagrees On When to Start Having Children

DEAR ABBY: I have been in a strong relationship with my girlfriend for five years. We are very much in love. I have told her I don’t want to get married and have kids until I have attained some level of success. She understands my desire to be a good provider, but she’s 29 and worried ...

Birdscaping Helps Attract Yard Birds

Food, water and shelter are the basic requirements for attracting birds to your yard. But you can boost the number and variety of species that visit by taking an additional landscaping step: learning the birds’ preferences. “Birdscaping” plants should be chosen to provide food and ...

Long-married Couple Considers Swinging

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for years. We married young, and I’m the only man she has been with. Although we seem to have a good sex life, she’s now saying she wants more. She wants to experiment and is suggesting we try a “swinging” lifestyle — a threesome or foursome ...

My Circus, My Monkey

Not so long ago, whenever I saw a film or TV portrayal of a mouthy adolescent girl who hated everything and everybody, I would chalk up her misery to overacting and hackneyed stereotyping by cranky middle-aged writers and directors. My opinion hinged on the fact that 1. I seemed to have ...

Growing Up With John Marshall High School

One could say John Marshall High School and I grew up together. We are both now 50, and hitting the half-century mark is a cause for reflection and celebration. One of my earliest memories as a child was riding by John Marshall and my mom pointing to the new school saying, “That’s your ...

Man Uses Wife’s Work Problems For Validation

DEAR ABBY: My husband tends to fight dirty, and I don’t know how much more I can take. If we argue about some issue between us, he’ll say something along the lines of, “This is why you have so much trouble with your colleagues at work.” He knows this is a touchy subject, and it upsets ...

Girlfriend’s Young Kids Challenge Veteran Father

DEAR ABBY: I’m 41 with two adult kids and my youngest, who is almost 15. For the last eight months I have been dating a woman with two kids — one is nearly 10 and the other is 4. We have a lot in common. We get along great, and I really like her. The downside is, I’m having a hard time ...

Important to Know the Symptoms of a Concussion in a Child

Participating in sports is a great way for kids to stay active, boost their self-esteem, and develop teamwork and leadership skills. While encouraging our children to participate in sports has many benefits, parents must be vigilant when protecting them from sports-related injuries, like ...

Man Fesses Up to Affair

DEAR ABBY: I found out a month ago that my wife and my best friend had a relationship 40 years ago when we were in our 20s. My friend hinted about it, so I asked him point blank and he confessed. Obviously, if you can’t trust someone, he’s not your friend. My question is, should I ask my ...

Prepare for Fall Plantings

The nip is not in the air yet, but the need for getting ready for the frost and freeze of the coming season should be on your mind. We began a month ago by starting our fall plantings, and now we have gathered our row covers and hoops to extend these crops. The cole crops — broccoli, ...

Woman Hurt When Left Out Of Wedding

DEAR ABBY: My best friend and I are middle-aged women. Throughout our long friendship, I have been one of the few people in her life who was there for her as she dealt with boyfriend problems, elderly parents, serious illnesses, deaths, etc. She became engaged for the first time recently, ...

Welcome, Fall!

Saturday was the first day of fall, and October is right around the corner. My daughter declared the other day that October is her favorite month. I was surprised. I felt sure it would be December, because of Christmas, or March, because of her birthday, or any of the summer months because ... ...

Man’s Fear of Being Alone Leads to Affairs

DEAR ABBY: My son has taken it upon himself to get romantically involved with two different married women. He’s newly divorced after a long marriage and hates the idea of being alone. He says he loves them both, but realizes there’s no future with either one, so he’s trying to extricate ...

Campbell To Lead Chapter

Local educator Jamie Campbell has been chosen to serve as the new program administrator for the Wheeling chapter of Classrooms Without Borders. Campbell is a social studies teacher and department chair at Wheeling Central Catholic High School. Classrooms Without Borders, founded in ...

First Waking Moments Determine Attitude for the Day

How did your day start? Take a moment to remember the first intentional thought you had. Today mine came from scarcity – “I don’t have enough time. I have to hurry.” With that, a hand-sized snowball is formed only to gather speed, strength and size as the morning routine unfolds. As ...