Truly Sincere Gifts Are Anonymous

“Make certain you do not perform your religious duties in public so that people see what you do publicly, you will not have any reward from your Father in heaven. So when you give something to a needy person, do not make a big show of it, as the hypocrites do in the houses of worship and on the streets. They do it so that people will praise them. I assure you, they have already been paid in full. But when you help a needy person, do it in such a way that even your closest friend will not know about it. Then it will be a private matter. And your Father, who sees what you do in private, will reward you.” – The Gospel of Jesus, Matthew, Chapter 6: Verses 1-4, The Good News Bible.

My mother and father are the reason I had any success in my life, and I love and deeply appreciate what they taught me about God and life.

Once, later in life, I had the opportunity to counsel my dad. He was down in the dumps and suggested that he would never be remembered in life for anything.

Yet, he had helped so many people in his lifetime without any thought of individual glory. I, of course, vehemently disagreed with him.

If my memory serves me correct, I said that there are many buildings, roads, bridges, and statues erected for people, who in truth, were basically corrupt and hypocrites in their lives. For example, there are the Carnegies, the Fricks, and the Rockefellers, to name just a few.

Their road to financial success was built on many dubious transactions which hurt many people over the decades. But yet, they’re revered for their financial contributions to the public domain.

In my opinion, their guilt – due to past transgressions over their cutthroat dealings in the past – they wanted to make amends and hopefully be known as great American benefactors.

Then there are the more sincere and honest humanitarians, the likes of Bill Gates and his wife, who are wealthy and famous individuals who are publically praised for their monetary gifts to very worthwhile causes.

I think that is great and they have been honored for their kind contributions. But does it count as a spiritual reward? The answer is a definite “NO!”

The Gates have already received their accolades via awards and news media publicity for all to know of their generosity across the globe.

The true spiritual rewards for good deeds are known by nobody but our Supreme Being.

This brings me back to people like my late parents, Dorothy and Bill Welker. They gave with no desire of Earthly reward or fame. So many, many ordinary people like them have performed the same gestures.

In my opinion based on faith, their unannounced, unselfish acts of kindness are etched in Heaven’s book of eternal life. So, folks, when we receive praise in our human lives for righteous acts, we have received recognition by our worldly peers. The payment has been “paid in full.”

My advice to you is when you truly want to assist somebody, do so anonymously without the beneficiary or anyone else ever knowing.

Then your special gift of kindness is offered with true sincerity.

The most generous gifts come from the heart without any hope or expectation of receiving a “thank you” in return. It has been said on a multitude of occasions: “It’s better to give than to receive.” Let yours truly take this old adage a step further regarding sincere giving: “It is better to give unnoticed than to receive praise”

Welker, Ed.D., is a Wheeling resident who retired after serving as an educator from 1969-2009. He is a nationally recognized expert on wrestling who has published hundreds of articles and a book on the subject.