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Don’t Skip the Shots or the PT for Frozen Shoulder

DEAR DR. ROACH: I have been diagnosed with frozen shoulder after an X-ray by an orthopedic doctor. He sent me to physical therapy, but this is the slowest recovery and the most agonizing pain. No over-the-counter products help, and I do not want surgery. He offered a shot for the pain. I ...

Man Who Threatened Suicide Demands His Guns Be Returned

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been friends with another couple for more than 50 years. The four of us have shared lots of good times together. After recent open heart surgery, the husband became very depressed and talked to his wife about “ending it all.” She asked me to take the few ...

Aluminum Cookware

Dear Heloise: My aluminum cookware has become dull and dingy looking. How can I bring it back to life? — Sherrie W. in South Dakota Sherrie, cream of tartar works fairly well; however, I would suggest a commercial cleaner made especially for aluminum. DO NOT use any cleaner that contains ...

Attention Paid To Ex-Fiancee Angers Wife For 20 Years

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I were married 30 years when we ran into an old girlfriend (an ex-fiancee) of mine at a function. I spent a good part of the evening dancing with her and ignoring my wife. My wife says I was “indecent” with the girlfriend, and it hurt her badly. It was 20 years ...

An Erosion Of Privacy

Today’s Sound Off is about loss of privacy: Dear Heloise: Everywhere you look today there is a camera watching us. Stores have them to catch shoplifters, intersections with traffic lights have them perched high enough to see who isn’t obeying the law and every airport has them, just to ...

Girlfriend’s Online Spending Increased Despite Furlough

DEAR ABBY: For the past eight years, my son has been seeing “Tanya” and, according to him, she spends a lot. I’m concerned about it. Because of the pandemic, Tanya got furloughed from her employer. She lives in an apartment but has all deliveries sent to OUR home address. Since the ...

Life Is Better With A Pet

Aunt Mary had one. She was a small, black poodle named Mori. Not sure how she spelled the dog’s name but I recall her talking to him as if he were human and the dog likewise responding. Aunt Mary never married and lived with her widowed mother until her passing. Their McColloch Street ...

Fabric or Detergent May Be Aggravating Mask Wearer

DEAR DR. ROACH: I wear a face mask whenever I go into a store. My problem is that even wearing a mask for a short time gives me a scratchy throat the next day, causing me great anxiety because I fear that I have contracted the coronavirus. That scratchiness does dissipate during the day, but it ...

News of Another Pregnancy Is Unwelcome Surprise to Stepdad

DEAR ABBY: My wife of 10 years keeps all kinds of secrets from me. We let her adult daughter, “Maude,” move in. Maude is 35 and has one daughter. I recently found out that Maude is pregnant again. I heard they had decided to “surprise me” with the news. (The father is the same guy as ...

Listening Supports Friend After Loss of Family Member

Q: How can I best reach out to someone who has lost a family member to suicide? My good friend's son recently took his own life, and I'm at a loss as to what I should do or say to her. Jim: First, recognize that in addition to her grief, your friend is probably working her way through a huge ...

What Is the Value In Testing a Healthy Person for COVID-19?

DEAR DR. ROACH: In the coronavirus pandemic, many people are getting tested for 1) active illness and 2) antibodies. What’s the value of an asymptomatic person getting tested for an active infection? Do we even know if having antibodies gives you any protection? I’m reluctant to get tested ...

Happy Love Life Turns Best Friend Into a Debbie Downer

DEAR ABBY: I have been lucky enough to have fallen madly in love with the most wonderful man in the world. We have been together for two years and have been living together for almost a year. I’m in my mid-30s; he’s in his mid-40s. We both have had plenty of experience in love — enough to ...

No More Weevils

Dear Heloise: How do I get rid of weevils in my pantry? — Janice in Indiana Janice, first take everything out of your pantry and cabinets. Destroy boxes and bags that have any trace of weevil activity in them. Check everything, including cereal, flour, spices, dry pet food, pasta, dry ...

Toddler Uses Foul Language She Learned From Her Dad

DEAR ABBY: Although he has never hit me, my husband has been emotionally and verbally abusive ever since our wedding five years ago. One of his favorite names for me when he’s angry is “F----n’ B----.” I know this is my fault because I have tolerated it. Today, my 2 1/2-year-old ...

Look for A Badge

Dear Heloise: A warning for your readers: A big online retailer sells T-shirts and baseball caps preprinted with names of some of the big delivery companies! It is possible for someone with bad intent to don these clothing items, knock on your door and possibly gain entry to your home. An ...

Hound Is Nothing But Trouble During his Owner’s Vacations

DEAR ABBY: My daughter and son-in-law’s dog, “Zeke,” is a poor houseguest. We have kept him several times while they were vacationing. This last time, a long weekend, was very stressful. Zeke is a hound dog (58 pounds) and stubborn. He jumps on furniture, jumps up to the kitchen ...

Surgery Is Last Resort For Man’s Chronic Back Pain

DEAR DR. ROACH: I am a 70-year-old man with chronic back pain. I first started having serious back pain in college after spending much of my time hunched over a drawing board. Later, as an architect, my back pain recurred frequently. About 20 years ago, after having terrible sciatica in my left ...

Father-in-Law Expects Future Grandchildren To Be Catholic

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are trying to have children. He was raised Catholic, but is now agnostic. I’m also agnostic. My deeply religious father-in-law insists that our future children be baptized Catholic. I’m against it because I think it should be a person’s right to choose which ...

Tight Pants and Packed Pockets May Cause Tingling, Numbness

DEAR DR. ROACH: I have had meralgia paresthetica for two and a half years. I have all the classic symptoms: tingling, pins and needles, some numbness and stinging in the top and side of my left thigh. I have tried numerous exercises and been treated by a physical therapist and an acupuncturist. ...

Couple Planning Wedding Want to Keep Haters Away

DEAR ABBY: My fiance and I have begun planning our wedding for next year. We have both been married before, so the family doesn’t think we should have a “big” celebration. Mom actually told me that it can’t be as special as my first one. While lying in bed the other night, we were ...