DEAR ABBY: I dated a guy for 10 months. We constantly fought because of his lack of trust. He had been burned in previous relationships. He said, “Trust is earned, not given,” which isn’t my philosophy. After a recent argument (about lack of trust), I told him this attitude is a ...

Dear Heloise: In a response to a reader in a recent column, while it is wise to cover and refrigerate, it is not wise for all foods. Homemade refried beans do not refrigerate well while covered. I kept covering my refried beans and they kept growing mold. As a Hispanic man, beans are a ...

Have you ever thought about why a butterfly or a moth goes where it goes? Where do they come from? Many of us have learned about Monarch Butterflies and their critical relationship with milkweed as a host plant, but what about the other types of butterflies and moths? In his book, “Bring ...

DEAR DR. ROACH: My wife went blind in her left eye suddenly last October, and a biopsy showed temporal arteritis. She was started on high-dose prednisone, and after four weeks they lowered the dosage. Her right eye is blurry, and doctors recommended removing the cataract in hopes of helping her ...

DEAR ABBY: Fifty years ago, at the age of 17, I was raped by a high school classmate. At the time, I was living in an apartment with a friend, “Becky.” She and three male classmates witnessed the attack, stood by and did nothing. (They were drunk.) I never reported the assault because I ...

Today’s SOUND OFF is about puppy mills: “Dear Heloise: I recently read about puppy mills that are flourishing in my state and across the nation, and I’m angry about the lackadaisical approach this country is taking to shut down and punish the people who operate these overcrowded, cruel ...

DEAR ABBY: On a recent Saturday afternoon, two of my daughter’s 13-year-old friends came to our house. My daughter answered the door, and after being denied access, both pushed their way in. During their stay, the girls were rude and disrespectful, going through the refrigerator and pantry ...

The adage of “what’s old is new again” continues to be true in the Wheeling area, with preservation generally outweighing destruction. For instance, a creative example of the concept of adaptive reuse is envisioned for the former Mount Carmel Monastery in the Edgwood-Woodsdale section ...

I’ve always liked colorful old tins, especially the ones with interesting scenes as decoration. Vintage tins are attractive and convenient — a perfect place to store all the stuff that we accumulate. Many are available, both old and new, from merchants of yesteryear. I remember the ...

DEAR DR. ROACH: What do you know about copper killing the cold virus? I’m of the opinion that if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Yet, there is a copper product on the market that says it kills the cold virus on contact. Many people have claimed it is effective. Are all these ...

DEAR ABBY: I was born into a poor family, and my father gave me up for adoption to his well-to-do sister. My narcissistic adoptive mother severely abused me physically, mentally and emotionally as a child, and tormented me financially as an adult. I no longer speak to her. My biological mother ...

They sweep, mop, wax, and polish floors. They clean, dust, and polish furniture. They vacuum and clean carpets. They pick up and empty trash. They perform minor maintenance and repairs. They disinfect everything: desks, doorknobs, keyboards, counters, sinks, toilets. They salt ...

DEAR DR. ROACH: My father was recently diagnosed with a type 4 hiatal hernia. His doctor said that this can be very serious and he may need to have surgery to correct the problem. He’s 85 years old. Can you shed some light on this situation? — J.S. ANSWER: There is a hole in the diaphragm ...

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married to my husband for 21 years. We’ve had our ups and downs, but our relationship is solid. For the last year, I have watched as my husband has become closer to my sister. It started with phone calls every once in a while to check on how she’s doing. (She lives in ...

March is Problem Gambling Awareness Month and treatment resources and casinos sponsor programs to inform the public about responsible gambling, problem gambling and the resources available to the gambler and their concerned family and friends. Most gamblers are social gamblers-they gambling ...

Dear Readers: Did you know that Brussels sprouts are closely related to kale, and are nutrient-dense with high doses of vitamins C and K as well as folate, manganese and potassium? They also contain antioxidants that fight cell damage and certain types of cancer, and are high in fiber. So ...

DEAR ABBY: I am a 57-year-old married man. I share a house with my wife and daughter. After dinner last month, my wife and I had a big fight. I can’t believe the things we said. In 30 years, it has never gone that far. I left the house and went to a bar. A slightly older man sat down next ...

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than a decade. We’re nearly 30 now. We are happy not being married, and we both agreed early in our relationship that we would not have kids. All of a sudden, my boyfriend has decided he wants children. I said maybe in the future, but ...

Dear Readers: Today’s SOUND OFF is about returns at department stores: Dear Heloise: Working in retail has taught me how rude some people can be when they try to return an item that was a gift. I wish the public understood that I must follow store policy. If you’ve used the cookware, we ...

DEAR ABBY: My son is engaged to a young woman I’ll call Carla. They are currently living with my husband and me to save money and pay off bills. They fight often. Because of this, my husband and I were not excited when they flippantly announced their engagement and also flippantly announced ...