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Mom Feels Betrayed by Friend Who Snitched on Her Daughter

DEAR ABBY: I have recently found out that someone I thought was a good friend is the person who snitched and got my daughter in serious trouble at school. Our daughters attended the same preschool, middle school and high school. Although they were friends, the friendship was more between us ...

Washing An Iron Skillet

Dear Heloise: The advice to not use soap on seasoned cast iron is a fallacy. It comes from the days when soaps were commonly made with harsh ingredients such as vinegar and lye. It’s perfectly OK to use a gentle dish soap, especially the newer eco-friendly kinds. As a reminder: 1. Never ...

Exposure of Porn Addiction Rocks Marriage of 40 Years

DEAR ABBY: A friend of mine has recently discovered that her husband of 40-plus years has been hiding a decades-long porn addiction. The discovery has caused a problem in their marriage. They have had counseling. He says he wants to save their marriage and has vowed to give up the porn. I ...

Hang a Christmas Tree!

Dear Readers: It’s been a year for the books, hasn’t it? If you are pushed for time and space and want to put up a tree with a smaller footprint, you can make one, and attach it to the wall! Grab some evergreen garland and some damage-free, easy-to-remove picture hooks. Shape the garland, ...

Gifts for Grandkids Are Left Behind at Grandma’s House

DEAR ABBY: I raised my kids right as a single mom. I took pride in supporting them and giving them what they needed and wanted. I have a daughter who lives out of town with her husband and children. I don’t get to see them often, so I love buying them gifts that are waiting for them when ...

Don’t Be A No-Show

Today’s Sound Off is about breaking appointments: Dear Heloise: I have a full service beauty salon with five other chairs and stylists. This is how I make a living. You can’t imagine how annoying it is when a client doesn’t keep their appointment and doesn’t call me in a timely ...

Change in Dinner Party Guest List Draws an Angry Response

DEAR ABBY: I’ve known my friend “Ashley” for a lot of years. She is single. Several years ago, I introduced her to another couple, the “Smiths.” We all have a lot in common and take turns inviting each other for dinner. This group and a couple of other couples are the only people in ...

Christmas In The House Of Children

Despite the overwhelming task of fulfilling wish lists, Santa did a darn good job most years of my childhood. It started on Thanksgiving Day when we would put the names of all the siblings in a hat and each of us pulled a name. We would try to keep it a secret whose name we picked, but that ...

Ornaments, Old or New, Are Perfect Collectibles

Do you have a favorite ornament on your Christmas tree? That’s one of the things that make the tradition of the tree so important — the precious ornaments used for trimmings. Vintage ornaments dating to the mid-20thcentury are popular right now and you can still find these at antique ...

A Urologist Treats ED Caused By Blood Flow Blockages

DEAR DR. ROACH: Some months ago, you wrote that the blood flow to the penis could be reduced by blockages in the arteries. What kind of doctor should a guy go to, and what tests should be asked for? — J. ANSWER: Low blood flow to the penis is one common cause of erectile dysfunction. ...

Mom Working Swing Shift Is Pressured to Stay on the Job

DEAR ABBY: My hubby and I come from very different backgrounds. He grew up in a community where all the moms had to work. I grew up in one where most of the moms did not. Our marriage was perfect until we had a baby. After our first child was born, my hubby made clear that it was ...

After 44 Years, Breast Implant Ruptures, Causing Concern

DEAR DR. ROACH: I’m 73 and had silicone implants put in when I was 29. Other than getting firm, I’ve never had a problem with them. I have had a mammogram every year since I was 45 and all has been well except for this year, when the right implant showed up as ruptured. This was five months ...

Ex Comes Back For a Second Chance After Being Rejected

DEAR ABBY: My ex had a prior relationship with my cousin “Earl.” When she talked about her past relationships, a common theme emerged. Her partners were emotionally abusive — cheating, berating her, throwing rage fits where they screamed in her face and threw things. My own history is ...

Living With Ex-Husband Goes From Bad to Worse

DEAR ABBY: Although I have been divorced from my ex for eight years, we still live together. There is not — nor will there ever be — more than a platonic relationship between us, and I have made that abundantly clear to him. It wasn't always a bad situation, but now it's worse than I ...

Shopping With Security

Dear Heloise: It’s peak holiday shopping season. The stores may not be as crowded as they were in years past, due to the global pandemic of COVID, but we are still shopping. What are some hints you can share with your readers for safety in the big-box retail stores? My favorite hint is to ...

Man Says Machismo Made Him Give In to Divorce Demand

DEAR ABBY: I was married to my wife for 29 years, and I have now been divorced for two. I have tried to move on, but I can’t because I still love her. She initiated the divorce because she thought I cheated on her. I didn’t fight her because I was too macho. I don’t know if I miss her ...

No Phones On First Dates

Today’s Sound Off: Put down your cellphone: Dear Heloise: This evening I had a date with a young man who is up and coming in his profession. But this first date is also the last date I’ll have with him. So what’s wrong? Every few minutes his phone would ring, and none of the calls were ...

Man Lets Special Anniversary Pass Without Any Celebration

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband 25 years as of today. (We’ve been a couple for 32 years.) He has done absolutely nothing to commemorate this. I reminded him months ago to save for something because it was very important to me. My friends would have happily helped him do ...

Dark Meat Vs. Light Meat

Dear Heloise: I enjoy reading your column every week. Always find hints. Well, I have one question I hope you can help me with. Do you know why almost every chicken recipe uses dark meat? I don’t like dark meat. Do I just substitute white for dark and not cook as long? — Lynda R., Oxnard, ...

Man Wonders If Larger House Could Signal Bigger Problem

DEAR ABBY: My fiancee, “Diane,” and her two sons live in a nice home. I also have a nice home, newly constructed. It’s located 1,200 miles away, near my parents, my son and my job. Diane currently has no job nor family within 500 miles of her town. Her boys’ father (whom she shares ...