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Columns

Coin Shortage?

Dear Readers: Surely you’ve noticed retailers posting signs about a coin shortage. It’s not really a shortage, it’s a distribution problem. During these times of a global pandemic, some businesses have had their doors closed or have been limited in service for social distancing and ...

Many Reach Out To Offer Help to Grieving Widower

DEAR ABBY: Your advice to the grieving widower “In Need of Someone” (June 22) was spot on. I met my husband when I was 14. We married at 18, and he died when he was 44. After his death, I had no idea how to be a person because I had always been a partner. In the early years, I cried ...

Plan to Move South Become Roadblock in Trip to the Altar

DEAR ABBY: I am a 41-year-old woman who has been with my fiance for eight years. Before we decided to become a couple, I made clear to him that if he had no intention of moving south once my kids graduate, he should not get into a relationship with me. When we got together, I assumed he ...

Clogged Shower Head

Dear Readers: Have you noticed that your shower head no longer shoots out a steady stream of water? Minerals from hard water may have clogged up the holes. Before you call a plumber, try this first: If you can remove the shower head, totally submerge it in a bowl of hot vinegar. After the ...

Could Shingles Vaccine Have Caused A Spike in CA-125?

DEAR DR. ROACH: I have a history of cancer with an elevated CA-125 level. Recently I had a shingles shot and soon thereafter, my CA-125 level was high. An extensive workup showed up nothing significant, and a repeat CA-125 level was back down to normal. Could the shingles shot have elevated my ...

Warring Kids Are Barriers In Couple’s Relationship

DEAR ABBY: I got married to a wonderful guy 14 years ago, but after a year of marriage, our children (his 10-year-old and my 12- and 13-year-olds) couldn’t stand one another and caused a lot of problems. I was brokenhearted when he gave me divorce papers. I moved out but continued to date him ...

Bread Ends

Dear Heloise: I take the ends of a loaf of bread and put them in a freezer bag then pop them into the freezer. When I have enough, I make bread pudding that is simply delicious. Some people throw the ends out, some feed them to the birds, but bread pudding is a great way to use all the bread in ...

Transgender Playmate Poses A Challenge to Girl’s Grandma

DEAR ABBY: My 7-year-old granddaughter, “Leyla,” has a playmate who is a transgender girl. My fear is that she may find out the truth and feel betrayed by her playmate as well as me. Should I explain it to her? It doesn’t matter to me that her friend is transgender because I have always ...

Out of the Box

Dear Readers: In a column last week we discussed what should go in your safe deposit box. Today, the subject is what should stay out of the safe deposit box. Let’s check it: * Your original Will and Letters of Instruction — When you die, the bank will secure your safe deposit box, and the ...

A Pillar of the Community Is Less Admired at Home

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 14 years to a man a lot of people in our town think has no flaws. He helps a lot of people, and he is also a pastor, but he ignores me and takes me for granted, personally, emotionally and sexually. He’d rather watch TV until he falls asleep on the couch. ...

No Winners In This Fight

I will preface today's column by telling you that no matter what follows, there will be no winners. What I am writing about will more than likely draw empathy from some and have others condemning me, too. In this business, you kind of get used to that. If there is anything I wish to ...

Don’t Let Preconceived Notions About Aging Limit Your Potential

DEAR DR. ROACH: After reading several of your columns, where readers asked if they are too old for some activity, I wanted to make older adults aware of their untapped reservoir of energy and ability. I notice that most tend to be hesitant to try various activities thinking they are probably ...

Newly Sober Mom Regrets Pain She Caused Her Family

DEAR ABBY: After smoking marijuana for 20 years, I quit two days ago. My head is starting to clear now, and things are coming into focus. I missed so much, and I feel terrible about it. How many times did I say no to my kids because I was lazy? How many times have I yelled at them for just ...

Teenage Brothers Fight Over Friends

Q: How do we stop our two teenage sons from fighting over a girl? "Jake" (outgoing 16-year-old) has struck up a "friendship" with a girl who "John" (shy 17-year-old) has liked for months. This is a longtime pattern, although not over girls. "John" accuses his brother of stealing all his friends ...

Optimal Blood Pressure Goal Needs to Be Individualized

DEAR DR. ROACH: My father is 91 years old, and I am concerned that his elevated blood pressure isn’t being properly addressed. Recently, it seems to run in the mid-170s to mid-80s (176/86). He has a number of health issues, such as a kidney stent every three months, diabetic neuropathy and a ...

Deleted Texts To New Friend Arouse Wife’s Suspicions

DEAR ABBY: My husband is currently at a job that, at first, he complained was a “drag.” It later became a place he seemed to be OK working at. A new male employee was hired — a man who is on his second marriage — and he became friendly with my husband. Over the last few months I have ...

Watery Potato Salad

Dear Heloise: Every time I make homemade potato salad it gets watery if not eaten on the same day. Tell me, what am I doing wrong? — Maxi R., Waterloo, N.Y. Maxi, potatoes hold a lot of water, so you’ll need to allow time for the water to drain by leaving them to cool in a strainer. If ...

Early Lesson in Social Graces Helps Overcome Initial Shyness

DEAR ABBY: When I was a young adult, I had difficulty speaking with strangers. I recall, some years later, attending a party in honor of someone I truly admired. Most of the people there didn’t know each other. Someone had the bright idea for each of us to tell how we knew the honoree. We ...

VIRUS DIARY: The Coronavirus Came, and She Kept on Training

SEATTLE (AP) — This year started with so much promise. I spent two weeks in January competing in biathlon races in Seefeld, Austria, during the Winter World Masters Games 2020, winning three silver medals and celebrating with 3,000 winter-sport athletes from around the world. Six weeks ...

Sobering Up Changes Dynamics of Wife’s Closest Relationships

DEAR ABBY: I know I have been blessed with wonderful relationships in my life. I have been married to the same lovely man for 25 years. I am also fortunate to have had the same best friend for 40 years. The problem? They drink. Because of past behavior, I decided to get sober two years ago. I ...