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Goodbye, Hello

Forty-one years is a long time to spend at one job. Not many people do that anymore. While Friday marked my farewell to this four-decade career in the news business, I will be hanging around to write a weekly column you will continue to find in this weekend space. This life-altering ...

MMR Vaccine is Critical, But Not to Help with COVID

DEAR DR. ROACH: We have friends who got the measles-mumps-rubella vaccine believing it will help with exposure to COVID-19. What are your thoughts on their thinking? — P.H. ANSWER: The World Health Organization has reported an increase in measles deaths since 2016, and that trend has ...

Couple Reaches A Stalemate in Marriage Without Intimacy

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are both enlisted Army (he — 20 years, two Iraq deployments; I — 15 years, one Iraq deployment). We met in the service and have been married for 10 years. Three years after our wedding, my husband told me he was no longer physically attracted to me. It hurt. A ...

Hiatal Hernia Surgery Called for If Meds Fail to Help

DEAR DR. ROACH: I am a 72-year-old female with MGUS. I was just diagnosed with an ulcer, Barrett’s esophagus, GERD and a hiatal hernia of 8 cm. My surgeon has put me on high-dose Prilosec and Carafate before bed. My oncologist has given the OK for surgery for the hernia, but friends have told ...

Son With New Girlfriend Grows More Distant From His Mother

DEAR ABBY: I’m a mom of three young adults, a daughter and two sons. The oldest recently married. My youngest is finishing his last two years of college out of state. Three months ago, he met a young lady. I have tried constantly to be close with all my children, but the youngest has ...

Savvy Senior: Is Social Security Income Taxable?

Dear Savvy Senior, I understand that a portion of my Social Security benefits may be taxable when I retire. Can you tell me how to calculate this? Ready to Retire Dear Ready, Whether or not you’ll be required to pay federal income tax on your Social Security benefits will depend on your ...

Organic Potatoes

Dear Heloise: I like to buy organic potatoes that come in a bag but always heard not to store potatoes in the refrigerator. How can I keep them from growing sprouts if they can’t be refrigerated? — Vivien W., Sherman Oaks, Calif. Vivien, organic potatoes will start to sprout anywhere ...

Busy Mom Fights to Prevent Frustrations From Exploding

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 24-year-old woman who has been married for four years. My husband, “Jerry,” and I have two young boys. Jerry is military. I stay at home with the kids and work part time online on an associate degree. We struggle financially, but our basic needs are met and, overall, ...

Online Bullying

Dear Heloise: Back in the day, bullying and intimidation by kids and classmates used to STOP the minute a child stepped off the school bus. Today though, with social media, it can perpetuate. Kids can post demeaning, humiliating and, most importantly, UNTRUE things about classmates online, ...

Mom Threatens Divorce After Teens Find Their Dad’s Stash

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are going on 19 years of marriage and have three teenage girls. We have had multiple rounds of marriage counseling, mostly with good results, although the benefits seem to be short-lived. Most of our problems have stemmed from my husband’s drinking or smoking pot. ...

Charity Scams

Today’s Sound Off is a warning about Charity scams: Dear Heloise: In this colder weather, many charities will be asking for donations to help the homeless and the needy. Many are reputable agencies whose only goal is to help others. However, it’s also a time when some scam artists try to ...

Pastor Having Affair Keeps His Engagement Under Wraps

DEAR ABBY: A new single pastor was assigned to my church. He asked if I was single and if I had kids. I told him no, and we began having an affair. For two years, it was all in secret. Then I began noticing that a single lady from his previous church would visit. He told me she was concerned ...

Being Open, Honest With Adopted Kids

Q: We've always been open with our teenage son about the fact that we adopted him at birth. But recently he's become almost obsessed with the topic — and especially his birth parents. If he gets upset, he shouts that we aren't his "real" mom and dad. This is devastating to us; we love him so ...

Hearings With the Social Security Administration During COVID-19

In March 2020, we temporarily closed all of our Social Security Hearing Offices due to the Coronavirus pandemic and are not offering in-person hearings. During the office closures, we are providing two flexible, safe, and secure hearing options: either a telephone hearing or our new option of ...

The Last Words

Fast cars and even faster boats — Mike Myer loved them all. And over the years, we heard his many stories about both. From his teen years speeding around Wetzel County to his antics in college at West Virginia University, Mike had a story. Maybe that’s what it takes to be a good ...

Another Look At Supplements

DEAR DR. ROACH: I read your recent response to a question about the efficacy of brain supplements. You note there is a paucity of published data, and that there is “no consistent evidence” that supplements help, except perhaps vitamin E. Fair enough. However, the lack of data may indicate ...

Too Much Togetherness Puts Pressure on Happy Relationship

DEAR ABBY: I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man, “Andy,” for two years. I couldn’t ask for a better partner. We are both divorced with children, and they get along like brothers and sisters. Even though our marriages ended, mine wasn’t an ordeal. My ex and I both knew ...

The Kidneys Perform a Necessary Life Function

DEAR DR. ROACH: I am an 83-year-old white male. I am overweight and have high blood pressure and Type 2 diabetes. I recently have been diagnosed with stage 4 kidney failure. I’m told that I have three strikes against me with these health issues, and there is not much hope in saving my kidneys ...

Mom Pressured to Teach Native Language to Daughter

DEAR ABBY: I came to this country 30 years ago, at 16. My parents were very abusive and neglectful, so my uncle in the U.S. took me in. I have worked with therapists, and my mind is clear about my past. I now have a 14-year-old daughter. I do not speak to her in my native language. It is not ...

Chopped Cranberries

Dear Heloise: If you need chopped cranberries to make cranberry bread and you don’t have a food processor, just put all the wet ingredients into a blender, mix, then add the cranberries for a pulse or two. So easy! — Margaret, La Mirada, Calif. VEGETABLE CHOWDER WITH BEER Dear Heloise: ...