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Sharing My More Offbeat Letters at the Start of April

DEAR ABBY: My father has been mostly absent from my life. We reconnected when I was an adult. I have always had feelings of abandonment, and because of this, I have constantly tried to build a relationship with him and allow him to have one with his grandchildren. Dad met my friend of 10 ...

Oatmeal

Dear Heloise: Do you have any suggestions or recipes for an overabundance of cooked oatmeal cereal? Our church group makes breakfast every other month (pancakes, eggs, biscuits and gravy, fruit and oatmeal), and there is usually a pot of oatmeal left over. I hate to see this thrown out but have ...

Medical Setback Causes Man to Cut Ties With Girlfriend

DEAR ABBY: I had a boyfriend for two years until a few days ago. He’s a 40-year-old easygoing paraplegic (from a car accident long before I met him), and I’m an easygoing 36-year-old woman with two kids from a previous marriage. We had a great connection, a similar outlook on life and ...

What Will We Learn?

I burnt the bacon. Let me be more clear. On the cookie sheet were the charred remains of what could have had the chance of being bacon. What I saw on that cookie sheet was failure. I tried. I got up early. Hosted my first zoom meeting for our leadership team from the kitchen, so I could also ...

Parents Still in the Dark About Sibling’s Sexual Abuse

DEAR ABBY: I was sexually abused by a sibling for 10 years during my childhood. I never told anyone what happened to me until I confided in my fiance after we were engaged. I have gone through counseling sessions and am at a place in my life where I am happy and healthy. Currently, I have a ...

Flattening the Curve While Growing Your Comfort Zone

Flatten the curve, a term many of us weren’t familiar with until a few weeks ago. Now we know all too well flattening the curve means social distancing, in order to slow the spread of a virus. We have been asked to change the way we live, work, eat, play, etc. Almost immediately, our daily ...

Is Sugar a Poison?

DEAR DR. ROACH: My uncle, a retired surgeon, is 90 years old. I visit my uncle periodically to inquire about his health and well-being. He eats, but is a little weak. I suggested to my aunt, a retired obstetrician, to give him a nutritional supplement. I take one myself and found it to be ...

Decades-Old Loan Remains Unpaid Even After Threats

DEAR ABBY: I am an 83-year-old mother of four. I have been living with my second husband now for 21 years. Nineteen years ago, my husband loaned one of my daughters and her husband a large sum of money so they could buy a house and pay off bills and judgments. All the necessary paperwork for ...

Husband Carried On An Affair As Wife Cared For His Mother

DEAR ABBY: My husband of 30-plus years cheated on me several years ago with one of his young private students. In our state, she would have been underage, but she was living in an adjacent state with different laws. I had just finished six months of nursing his mom to heaven. She had ...

Spring Cleaning

Dear Readers: Spring is here! Are you ready to up your cleaning game? Let’s stock up with cleaning essentials. Take inventory of what you already have, clip this list and take it with you to the store to grab what you need: ∫ Wet mop ∫ Sponges ∫ Chlorine bleach ∫ Dry ...

Where’s the Appreciation?

Today’s Sound Off is about a lack of appreciation: Dear Heloise: Would you remind people that Christmas bonuses are one day’s pay or one week’s pay? For years now I have cleaned homes; did over and above what is expected; never called in sick or was late. And at the end of the year I ...

Couple’s Views on One Issue Diverge And Threaten Future

DEAR ABBY: After an abusive relationship ended 14 years ago, I stayed single and raised my small son to adulthood. I dated here and there, but never found anyone I had serious feelings for who also felt the same way about me until seven months ago. My feelings for my boyfriend are strong, ...

Man Leaves Wife, Daughters At Curb After Birthday Dinner

DEAR ABBY: I coordinated and paid for a 70th birthday party for my terminally ill husband. Fourteen people were invited, and seven of them were related to my only sister, “Carla.” During the dinner, her husband was rude to the waitress and at the end of the party was screaming and ...

Steroids and Surgery, Not Insulin, May Have Worsened Diabetes Case

DEAR DR. ROACH: I am 70 years old and had a kidney transplant 18 years ago. I developed diabetes, but it was controlled through oral medication. I recently went into the hospital for pneumonia and was given large doses of steroids and injections of insulin. Now I am unable to bring my sugar ...

Beyond the Standard Treatments to Shrink The Prostate Gland

DEAR DR. ROACH: I am an 83-year-old man who, like most men my age, has benign prostatic hypertrophy causing frequent urination. Tamsulosin, which was prescribed by my doctor, is of questionable help. I see hordes of ads for supplements claiming the ability to shrink the prostate. Do any of them ...

Transgender Classmate Isn’t Ready for Romance With Teenager

DEAR ABBY: I’m 16 and have had trouble with romance for as long as I can remember. I’ve had almost 80 crushes since kindergarten. I counted. Right now I am close to a relationship with a boy at my school who is a year older. I have had feelings for “Ben” for almost a year, and I ...

Stainless Steel Sink

Dear Heloise: I just bought a new stainless-steel sink for my kitchen, but I’m worried it’ll end up looking like my old one, which wasn’t too shiny after a couple of years. How do I keep it nice looking? — Grace in Mississippi Grace, first of all, never use an abrasive cleanser. ...

Words of Wisdom Impart Lesson in Self-Respect

DEAR ABBY: I have carried a worn clipping of your “Definition of Maturity” with me for many years because it has been inspirational to me. I even gave a copy of it to my younger brother. Is it part of one of your publications? I feel it is relevant today because both the young and old ...

Toilet Paper Etiquette

I am now down to 1-1/3 roll of toilet paper. I have gone to eight stores in the last couple of days to find empty shelves. I am getting a little disgusted as this is ridiculous. Sears stopped making their catalogs a long time ago so that is not an option. When I tried to order TP on Amazon I ...

Celebrate St. Patrick’s Day

Dear Readers: Today is St. Patrick’s Day, named for St. Patrick, the patron saint of Ireland — a day to celebrate the legacy and customs of the Irish. Celebrate with green pancakes shaped into shamrocks, or pop some green food coloring into any food or drink! — Heloise DONATION ...